Learn to live happier!
Positive psychology is a sector that does not seek to cure the disease, but also looking for the secrets of happiness and success. These has became one of the central questions of psychology lately, trying to find a solution to the paradox, that if everyone lives better now than it used to be, but why are we unhappier in this modern society.
Lots of experiments and research has been done about what it makes us happy, because the results showed that alone the fact that nothing is wrong, not yet, avoid unhappiness does not automatically lead to happiness. Another type of misconceptions that if then this and that I reach, I'll be happy if promoted, if I'll be in a relationship if I will have money, if I accomplishes my goals ... Error just there to slip into the machine so that people greatly overestimate what will be affected some event in their lives, because they do not take into account that then other things can happen. So maybe they are happy for a success for a while, but in time all will return to the original state. Lottery Winners been tested to see if any have been happier in the long run, and we got the result that nothing was different with the happiness level between the people who experienced some kind of trauma.
In a word, in order to be happy, we need something more generally comfort and the pure things befall: it requires some activity from our part. Even good things happen to us if we learn to consciously notice and appreciate the pleasures and their impact as much as possible to maintain on a daily basis. This collected some of the ways and techniques to consciously increase the happiness, positive psychology outstanding figures, Sonja Lyubomirsky and following Bryant's research and Veroff.
1. Count the small joys, too!
The first of these, we can do that the more we share our joy with others and by the remembrance Keep in multiple narration of the moment. It is very important that you arrive home and you are tired in the evening not only went from bad to complain, but the small pleasures we also reports that reach us during the day, thereby also increasing, more and more of these in store. If we know that everyone will have a positive experience tells us better safeguard our memories and more importance we attach to them. We are able to do this on different social sites so this is how Instagram can make a magic experience from a normal coffe, which is shared with others to generate positive emotions. But from our side it is important that if the other tells the story of the good experiences, strengthen, react positively, as this will be mutually encouraged each other to do that more in the future share it with others.
2. Learn to be grateful for what we take for granted!
The next is the awareness, even if something good happens to us: sometimes forget to enjoy what we take for granted. We're so “happy “to the constant complaining that you only realize how thankful we could be even for a hot shower at the evening if we run out from hot water. Countless such a thing as consciousness of ourselves in every moment, and it is easy to divert the minds of the annoyance. According to Lyubomirsky by the feeling of gratitude is an expression of the importance that almost never thank a turndown every day that you get from other people, but we complain immediately when we realize that you are not doing it. This is something that you can turn back and it can lead the relationship to a really positive direction, than we can feel happier. Some researchers believe the key is to maintain good relations with the general happiness: if you have relationship`s problems, loneliness, disfellowshipped we feel paralyzed, cannot be addressed in the future our plan and narrowed our thinking completely on the negative.
3. Celebrate your successes!
We often do not appreciate so much the success of what we expected from ourselves, and each deserves a good performance in celebration. Many times we go forward as a machine performs its responsibilities to some greater purpose, and not allow ourselves to rejoice, as long as you do not have. And yet, as it's up I have written, we'll be damn disappointed when after reaching a high goal cancel basking years of happiness, so many little can go basis, overall, more happiness we gain by you at times when you're stopping to celebrate the small steps are completed. The best you can to poison caused the happiness of success comparable to other aid, because we can always find someone whom we think that's better than us, and therefore less we'll appreciate what we have achieved. I always have to keep in mind, however, that we are who we are, where we started, where we got and what we have done it, and we don’t have to care about people who makes it smaller because just our own things can make us happy and satisfied.
4. Wait for good things!
Joy is an important part of the waiting: if you could choose to kiss your dream boy/girl three minutes later or three days later, which one would you voted? It was a matter of actual research, and the majority of participants opted for the three-day stretches much better experience the joy of anticipation, which is often an even more positive emotions than the experience itself. It's good I write this point before Christmas because of the preparation on as much love as the celebration itself, but a good example would be a special dinner is what you make for hours and have been in the thought even run into your mouth saliva how it will be fine and so is actually much longer enjoying the experience of more than ten minutes, during which the food munching. I know that our culture says we get everything right now, and as expected so has its positive aspects, and to another one say, better appreciate what I do not get it right away easy, so all aspects of cause more joy in what you stand for.
5. Switch off!
Finally, it is also a source of joy to perform as well as activities which we do for themselves, not for any purpose. Of course it is also important to find the joy in our work, but not enough. Work addiction is not just only a social accepted but also supported phenomenon: jobs obviously want to work as much as possible, and this is the message packed into sold, or that if successful, you'll be happy. However, this is apparently satisfactory, because your personality is much more versatile and complex, and the other part has to unfold needs for healthy development. Therefore, we must also do things that are recharged simply by doing them, which can dive in, to experience success and competence, to develop the other parts of our personality.
Being happy is not a big deal, but we can see that it is not necessarily can be done the way the culture thinks about it. This is a couple of things, raising awareness and sharing the joys, the expression of gratitude, the wait and the activities that cause pleasure consciously incorporated into the everyday lives - can do so at this moment that we are munching a chocolate instead of a sour grapes without any remorse.